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Coaching for Caregivers

Being a caregiver is a sacred trust between you and a loved one. It’s an honor to help another person as they recover from illness or pass from this life with dignity and love. But it can also take an emotional, physical, mental and spiritual toll on you. With so many demands on your time and energy, it’s often difficult to give yourself what you need without feeling guilty.

• Honor your own needs as well as the needs of the person you care for
• Relieve the stress that comes with being responsible for another’s health and welfare
• Create a balanced life and a workable schedule
• Set healthy boundaries that honor you & your loved one
• Get assistance and support when needed
• Process your feelings (positive and negative) in a life-affirming way
• Attend to your health too!
• Cultivate hope and peace
• Cope with the loss of your loved one
• Re-create your life when caregiving responsibilities are done

For over 15 years, I have been helping people to change their lives and rediscover their confidence…to find hope again and create the lives they want most. I’ve also spent 3+ years as the primary caregiver for my mother as she underwent treatment for cancer. I know the joys and struggles you’re facing.

Let me help you be the best caregiver you can be…for yourself and your loved one! Contact  lifesignscoaching.com today!

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Turn Your New Year’s Resolutions into Solutions!

Are you already thinking of tossing your New Year’s Resolutions out with the holiday trash? Do you want to make some big changes in your life, but just don’t know where or how to start? Try a different approach for 2013.

Stay motivated and moving forward with help from a life coach!

An experienced life coach can help you to:

  • Overcome limiting habits and behaviors
  • Create new life affirming habits
  • Balance personal and professional lives
  • Prioritize your activities according to your needs and values
  • Make time for yourself in your own life
  • Set and attain personal and professional goals
  • Clarify and understand your personal beliefs and their effects
  • Stay motivated and committed to your growth
  • Organize and manage your time and space
  • Communicate your own needs
  • Develop confidence and self-esteem
  • Learn to communicate with an honest, authentic voice
  • Expand your leadership skills
  • Learn to love and respect yourself and live a life based on your values and desires
  • Be happier with yourself and your choices!

If this sounds like the kind of help you need, then don’t wait another second to put your 2013 Solutions into action!

Contact Life Signs Coaching today!

Ask about our online New Year’s specials when you do!

Video: My Life Coach Helped Me to Balance Work and Family!

Thanks for sharing your success, Shelby! I love to see the confidence you have now, knowing you can create the home, family and career lives you want without getting overwhelmed! Congrats!

If you are feeling pressure to be the perfect wife, mom and professional woman, give yourself a break! There is a way to have it all and keep your sanity! Contact me and we’ll find the balance that works for you!

Video: Life Coach Helped Me After a Traumatic Divorce

Thank you, Tracie, for your encouraging words! Divorce is an ending, but it’s also a beginning!
You’ve created a positive new life for yourself and your kids. Bravo!

If you are struggling to create a new life after a divorce or other challenging life change, contact me. Your new life begins today if you’ll take the first step to make it happen!

Growing Through Crisis

The surest sign of spring at my house is the return of the cardinals. The azaleas can bloom only to freeze. Tulip and daffodil leaves often sprout never having the chance to flower. But when I see those flurries of red and brown flitting two by two across my front yard, I know spring has arrived.

I also know that tornados and spring storms won’t be far behind the cardinals. Lately, Mother Nature and human nature have been up in arms (literally and figuratively) more frequently and viciously. Earthquakes and tsunamis, hurricanes and tornados destroy our homes and landscapes. Economic upheavals erase the pretty pictures of our former American dreams and force us to repaint them.

In human terms, the excuses we need to draw battle lines with another country, faith group, political party or individual are getting flimsier all the time. Hatred, bigotry, abusive language and dismissive judgments are the mode of the day. In the minds of many, the right to proudly act on these human flaws and failings has been elevated to the status of a constitutional right.

My heart would utterly fail within me if I didn’t have faith in the possibility of renewal and rebirth! Thank God for Spring!

I recall May of 2009 when our area experienced one of Mother Nature’s really bad moods. The air here was filled with sighs of relief at lives spared, earnest expressions of gratitude and acknowledgements of what is really important in life. Like all communities in crisis, banded together to weather the storm. We were more patient than usual. We spoke more respectfully and showed genuine concern for each other. We swore our lives would never be the same again.

Crisis is a teacher of great lessons. But once crisis has passed, the lessons are often forgotten. Take a minute and think about the vows you made to yourself after your last crisis experience. Are you now doing what you promised you’d do? Are you still living a life infused with a sense of what really matters? Have you lived or lost those precious lessons?

As a season of rebirth and renewal, spring is the perfect time to renew your commitments.  New flowers and rain showers remind us that it takes precious little to create a happy life if the heart and spirit are set aright. Even when all seems lost, rebirth will come as surely as do the spring and the cardinals.

Possibilities for renewal can be found all around us, albeit in strange and unlikely places. For example, you may have just lost your job. That’s an experience none of us would relish. However, what if you consciously choose to see the lack of a job as a chance for renewal instead of a loss?

Perhaps you’ve had an idea for a business of your own for years, but haven’t tried it out. Or maybe you’ve always wanted to go to college and study engineering or psychology. It doesn’t matter why you now have the chance to do these things. What matters is that you see the chance to create something better at least as strongly as you see your loss.

Maybe you just got out of a long term relationship. And maybe ending the relationship was not your idea. But the choice to thrive and create a new life after the breakup is entirely in your hands. You have the option of centering your attention and emotion on what someone else’s actions took from you. But just as surely, you can see this ending as a chance to free yourself for new experiences.

In both cases, the facts can seem bleak. Former jobs and relationships are gone. Life has changed in radical ways. But we still have the power to assign the meaning to the facts through our choices and actions.

Crises may come, but they will go. And like physical birth, spiritual, professional or relationship rebirths may be very painful experiences. But they can lead to beautiful things if you are open to losing the loss and embracing the opportunity!

Life and renewal are as certain as death and destruction. Faith and hope are as sure as despair. Whether to serve hope or despair is the most basic choice in human life. Choose wisely!

Dr. Janice Staab is a philosophical counselor and life coach. For more information on her services or to schedule your free consultation, e-mail info@lifesignscoaching.com. You can also check out her Web site at www.lifesignscoaching.com.

 

Change Your Habits and Change Your Life! Part II

           In Part II of our discussion of habits, we’ll look at four more aspects of human habit:  Body, I, Time and Social Support.

Body:  Have you ever forgotten your watch at home only to spend the day looking down at your wrist because it still feels like you are wearing the watch?  To your body, it feels as if a watch is really there!  Even with no physical watch present, your body’s expectation, or habit, of feeling a watch is fulfilled. In a similar way, all habits are stored in your body in some way. Depression has a posture. Anger has a tone of voice.  Confidence has a breathing pattern. In each case, the body actively participates in the habit even if the habit itself is not overtly physical. To learn where how your body stores your negative habits, answer the following questions.

When I engage in my limiting habit patterns,

1.  How do I breathe?    How does the tone of my voice change?

2.  What is my posture like?    What gestures do I typically use?

3.  Where do I feel tension in my muscles?  What allows me to release this tension?

4. How does my body react when I am the most powerful?  Successful?  Capable?

5. How does my body react when I feel the most vulnerable? Weak? Confused?

I:  I simply stands for the Self, the core of a person’s identity, the utterly essential aspects of the individual. Do not confuse this with being selfish or egocentric. In fact, the most defining traits of some people may be their abilities to connect with others, to cooperate and to be social. Still, whatever characteristics set an individual apart from the pack, their uniqueness deserves respect. If you pay lip service to ideals you have trouble acting on, then you aren’t being yourself…at least not your habitual self…when you do act according to your ideals. To decide whether or not your habits allow you to be yourself, ask these questions.

1.  How much of my day do I spend doing and saying things that honor my highest Self?

2.  Do my current habits reflect my core beliefs and core values?

3.  Do I feel powerful and capable when I am engaging in my current habits?

4.  Who is the person I really want to be?  How can I become that person? Do I often stand in her way?

Time: Habits are affected by time in at least three distinct ways. First, we spend time actually engaging in our habits. Whether our primary habits are distance running and healthy eating, or Internet surfing and potato chip scarfing, our habits literally consume our time.

Second, certain times of the day, week, month and year can make us more apt to succumb to negative habits. For example, someone who is not a morning person might have a shorter fuse if angered before 9am. Third, and perhaps most importantly, it is often difficult to just live in the present. Dreams of the future or nostalgia for the past can themselves be habits of escape from the demands of the moment. To analyze the role time plays in your current habits, answer the following questions.

1.  How much time do my negative habits take up in a given day? Week? Month?  Year?

2.  Are there certain times of the day or seasons of the year when I am more likely to act on my negative habits?

3.  Do I spend a lot of my time dwelling on the past?  Do I spend a lot of my time dreaming about the future?

4.  How can I begin to live my life as it is right now instead of escaping into my dreams or memories?

Social Support: Socialization refers to the influence exerted on our habit development by those with whom we share our lives. This group is not only made up of family and friends, colleagues and acquaintances.  It is also includes our beloved pets, the gods we worship and celebrities we admire from afar. In a world of computers, cars, plasma TV’s and cell phones, many people actually interact more frequently with things than with humans. In any case, the central issue here is whether we socialize in ways that will improve us or hinder (perhaps even harm) us.  To determine how your social life affects your habit life, answer the following questions.

1.  With whom or what do I socialize when I am most vulnerable to my negative habits?

2.  Who or what prompts me to act on my negative habits even when I do not feel any inner desire to do so?

3.  Do I have social relationships that discourage me from making the changes I want to make?

4.  What social relationships could support me as I attempt to change my habits?

With a better sense of how your limiting habits operate in these six powerful areas, the next step is to determine why you are still hanging onto these habits.  If you have sustained a habit for a long time, it is almost certainly giving you a positive payoff in at least one of these six areas. Something keeps you coming back for more.  The next step, then, is to a) find the payoffs that attach you to your current habits, and b) devise practical, simple strategies to break free of these habits once and for all!  Upcoming posts in will show you how to do just that!

Dr. Janice Staab is a philosophical counselor and life coach. For more information on her services or to schedule your free consultation, e-mail info@lifesignscoaching.com. You can also check out her Web site at www.lifesignscoaching.com.

Succeed by Running Your Own Race

Aside from a few minor updates, the following post was written while I was training to run my first marathon. OK. It’s a repeat. But at this time of year when New Year’s resolutions begin to fade and motivation wanes, I hope these reflections on meeting a challenge head on will help you stay on or get back on track to your goals!

The race isn’t always to the swift…. OK, maybe the race was to the swift that day. After all, when the group with which I was running the St. Jude Marathon was at about mile 9, we saw a cluster of young gentlemen across a tree-lined lane from us running four abreast with humiliating (for us, not them) ease and precision toward the finish line. They were certainly swift and one of them took the race.

But in other equally significant respects, that marathon was mine!

I was certainly not among the swiftest in the pack of over 11,000. But there were many runners trudging on far behind me. Some did not finish the race at all. But after 6 hours and 7 minutes, I crossed the finish line to receive my finisher’s medal.

Perhaps the coolest part of the whole finish was that I didn’t just collapse from exhaustion after the race. In order to get out of Auto Zone Park (where they kept the finish line), we had to walk up a long, steep flight of stairs. With no rest save the few seconds it took to get my medal and a bottle of water, I hit the stairs and walked the mile back to my hotel with no problems. It was a nice cool down.

Aside from a couple of blisters, I had no pain at all during or after the race. There was never a time when I felt winded or like I couldn’t catch my breath. I felt physically and mentally strong and capable throughout the course.

I can’t recall a time when I’ve felt more attuned to what my body needed from me. I experienced a kind of internal practical wisdom that let me know when to drink, when to eat, when to speed up and when to slow down.

The most striking example for me was between miles 15 and 16. I felt fine one second and the next, my legs began to shake. I had no other symptoms. My mind was clear and pulse was steady. There was nothing to indicate dehydration or over-hydration.

About 60 seconds of negative thinking and wondering how bad it would look to crawl across the finish line quickly gave way to thought. I had read a ton of material on marathon running (Thank you, Julia!) and knew what might happen during the race. Scanning my memory, I decided that this was most likely a matter of low calories.

I downed four of the GU Chomps (essentially, energy gum drops) I had with me along with two starlight mints. Three minutes later or so, I had a Popeye moment. Energy surged into my legs like spinach into his fists. Suddenly, I was a runner again.

Moral of the story? Train as a whole person, not just a pair of legs. Knowledge really is power! If I had not trained my mind and my body for this race, I would not have been able to turn my negative thinking around so quickly. If I had not read up on marathoning before the race, I would not have known what to do to get my runner’s legs working again.

One other little blip in the race cost me some time. A rather large hill at about mile 11 caused me to fall behind my pace group. I was not the only one who fell back on that hill. I know this because I passed two other pace group members later in the race (and ended up beating both of them).

My mistake was spending about a mile trying to catch up with my group rather than just running my own race from that point. Focusing on the pack instead of myself caused me to wear down my energy reserves. I needed to listen to myself in the present moment, not to an ideal I had set up at the start of the race.

Moral of this story? In life and in marathons, run your own race at your own pace! What works for you may not work for everyone. And what works for others may not work for you. Know what you need out of life and go get it. Whether you are passing people or being passed along the way, you’ll finish stronger if you finish on your terms.

Had I not lost time to those two mistakes (neither of which had to do with how well I ran physically), I was on pace to complete the race in about 5 hours and 30 minutes. I will do better than that next time.

But how far I have come from that woman who wondered if she’d finish a ten mile run to one who considers a half-marathon to be a good training run for the real distance!

I learned a lot about myself and my strengths while training for this marathon. I now know that there is no distance in life or otherwise that I cannot cover if I choose to do so.

So, I choose to run more marathons. I can now confidently speak a phrase seen on many a tech shirt at the Expo the day before the race. 26.2 Miles: Been There, Run That!

My running goals and life goals will continue to be set and attained in 2012. What’s your 2012 plan? What do you want to be able to say in December of 2012? Speak the words in your mind now. Then set up a plan to make them your reality! If I can do it, you can too!

Dr. Janice Staab is a philosophical counselor and life coach. For more information on her services or to schedule your free consultation, e-mail info@lifesignscoaching.com. You can also check out her Web site at www.lifesignscoaching.com.

 

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