Video: Life Coach Helped Me to Battle Negative Self-Talk

Thanks, Rene! So happy you are realizing that you deserve happiness, respect and love…especially from yourself!

If you have trouble believing in yourself…or believing you deserve to live a great life…, contact me. We’ll work together to discover and honor the wonderful women hiding behind your negative thoughts and self-talk!

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Video: My Life Coach Helped Me to Balance Work and Family!

Thanks for sharing your success, Shelby! I love to see the confidence you have now, knowing you can create the home, family and career lives you want without getting overwhelmed! Congrats!

If you are feeling pressure to be the perfect wife, mom and professional woman, give yourself a break! There is a way to have it all and keep your sanity! Contact me and we’ll find the balance that works for you!

Video: Life Coach Helped Me After a Traumatic Divorce

Thank you, Tracie, for your encouraging words! Divorce is an ending, but it’s also a beginning!
You’ve created a positive new life for yourself and your kids. Bravo!

If you are struggling to create a new life after a divorce or other challenging life change, contact me. Your new life begins today if you’ll take the first step to make it happen!

A Little Mothers’ Day Wisdom

Mother knows best. The older we get, the more wisdom this pithy little phrase contains. Maybe that’s because we are now becoming the mom’s and female role models for the younger generations. But let’s face it. Our moms had great wisdom. They always knew when we were hungry, sick or tired. They knew when we had had difficult days at school, fought with friends or felt like we did not belong.

There are often no obvious explanations for why moms know what they know. Like the heightened instincts of a doe defending her fawn, a mother’s knowledge comes from her heart and goes to the heart of our need. She knows by intuition what others only learn through experience.

Whether the role is played by a mother, grandmother, aunt or other wise female teacher, behind every successful woman is a wiser, more experienced woman showing her the ropes.

Look in your mirror. The woman staring back at you has a wisdom all her own. Even if she is not a mother and does not want to become one, the woman in the mirror knows her world intuitively. Like mom, she knows how to get you through the tough times and celebrate the successes.

In honor of Mothers’ Day this year, try spending the day listening for the voice of your inner mother. The voice is often still and small because women devote so much of our time to meeting the needs and expectations of others. But pay close attention to your inner mom and you may be inspired by her insights!

“Get to bed. You have a big day tomorrow.” My inner mom has been screaming that one in my ear for months now. But she is not just talking about getting to sleep before midnight. Our inner moms know that we need to practice healthy self-care if we are to be the caretakers in our families, relationships and businesses.

Inner mom reminds each of us to nurture our bodies. But she also calls us to nurture our intelligence, our higher spirits and our creativity. Deep inside, every woman is certain that she has a special purpose in this world … that she is here for a reason. The specifics of that purpose may be revealed slowly. The purpose may inspire us or terrify us. But scary or not, inner mom knows that we have no right to hoard our gifts. Knowing that our big days are ahead of us, inner mom reminds us to study hard, eat well, sleep enough and to give ourselves a break now and then.

“Play nicely with your sister.” It was good advice then and it is good advice now. Women should support other women in life to the extent that this is possible. While all women don’t share the same values and beliefs as us, we should do all we can to see that their right to speak is respected though they disagree with everything we hold dear.

By the way, that also means we should respect our inner mom’s right to speak though she may point out some things we need to change “for our own good.” Such lessons are rarely pleasant, but they typically help us to grow.

“Do not go where I can’t see you” When we ventured too far away from mom’s gaze as youngsters, we took risks we did not even know existed. Similarly, when we wander too far from inner mom’s side, we put our connection with our internal compass at risk.

We have all felt stuck or uncertain in life. And we have all felt the sense of knowing what we should do without having the strength to actually do it. You can call that knowledge conscience, intuition, trusting your gut, providence or wisdom. I think it’s also inner mom opening our minds to a path of action and showing us truths we aren’t yet ready to admit. Stick close to her when the path seems cloudy.

“I love you.” Too many women have trouble with this one. Maybe someone from your past has convinced you that you are not lovable. Perhaps it is your own perfectionist streak that repeatedly tells you that you do not quite measure up. Whatever the source of these negative thoughts, your inner mom knows they are nonsense. She loves you no matter how you life has played out or what you have yet to accomplish.

The woman you are intended to be in this world is strong, capable, beautiful and talented. Your inner mom will see the buds of these traits even before they are in full bloom. But her love for you is not dependent upon your success. She simply adores you for who you are without question or condition. Inner mom loves your person, not just your practices!

Happy Mothers’ Day, ladies! On this day that honors all women, I hope you will have the strength to allow your inner mom to honor you!

As you become more comfortable with the wisdom of your own heart, your inner mom will show you what kinds of female mentors can best help you to thrive. You’ll be more open to guidance from others when you are secure in yourself. Once that happens, you won’t have to look hard for mentors. When the student is ready, her teachers will come!

            Dr. Janice Staab is a philosophical counselor and life coach. For more information on her services or to schedule your free consultation, e-mail info@lifesignscoaching.com. You can also check out her Web site at www.lifesignscoaching.com.

 

 

The Organization Detox: A new eBook by Dr. Janice Staab

 

The Organization Detox!

A new eBook by Dr. Janice Staab

Are you in a toxic relationship with your home? Is the clutter and chaos simply too much to bear? Tired of spending hours searching for things that should be easy to find? Do you feel like a slave to the constant struggle for an ordered home? Or perhaps you’ve just given up hope.

Well, there is hope! And it’s called The Organization Detox!

No matter how many times before you’ve tried to get organized, The Organization Detox has your answers!

That’s because The Organization Detox is more than an organization plan. It’s a comprehensive program for creating a home that serves your life purposes and needs.

In The Organization Detox you’ll learn:

1. The secret to why just trying to get organized actually makes you more disorganized.

2. The most common toxic habits that keep you from successfully organizing your home, and how to overcome them.

3. Simple strategies for clarifying and activating what you really need from your home.

4. A complete action plan for organizing your home around what really matters to you today.

Only $19.95 for the keys to an organized, inspiring home!

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Growing Through Crisis

The surest sign of spring at my house is the return of the cardinals. The azaleas can bloom only to freeze. Tulip and daffodil leaves often sprout never having the chance to flower. But when I see those flurries of red and brown flitting two by two across my front yard, I know spring has arrived.

I also know that tornados and spring storms won’t be far behind the cardinals. Lately, Mother Nature and human nature have been up in arms (literally and figuratively) more frequently and viciously. Earthquakes and tsunamis, hurricanes and tornados destroy our homes and landscapes. Economic upheavals erase the pretty pictures of our former American dreams and force us to repaint them.

In human terms, the excuses we need to draw battle lines with another country, faith group, political party or individual are getting flimsier all the time. Hatred, bigotry, abusive language and dismissive judgments are the mode of the day. In the minds of many, the right to proudly act on these human flaws and failings has been elevated to the status of a constitutional right.

My heart would utterly fail within me if I didn’t have faith in the possibility of renewal and rebirth! Thank God for Spring!

I recall May of 2009 when our area experienced one of Mother Nature’s really bad moods. The air here was filled with sighs of relief at lives spared, earnest expressions of gratitude and acknowledgements of what is really important in life. Like all communities in crisis, banded together to weather the storm. We were more patient than usual. We spoke more respectfully and showed genuine concern for each other. We swore our lives would never be the same again.

Crisis is a teacher of great lessons. But once crisis has passed, the lessons are often forgotten. Take a minute and think about the vows you made to yourself after your last crisis experience. Are you now doing what you promised you’d do? Are you still living a life infused with a sense of what really matters? Have you lived or lost those precious lessons?

As a season of rebirth and renewal, spring is the perfect time to renew your commitments.  New flowers and rain showers remind us that it takes precious little to create a happy life if the heart and spirit are set aright. Even when all seems lost, rebirth will come as surely as do the spring and the cardinals.

Possibilities for renewal can be found all around us, albeit in strange and unlikely places. For example, you may have just lost your job. That’s an experience none of us would relish. However, what if you consciously choose to see the lack of a job as a chance for renewal instead of a loss?

Perhaps you’ve had an idea for a business of your own for years, but haven’t tried it out. Or maybe you’ve always wanted to go to college and study engineering or psychology. It doesn’t matter why you now have the chance to do these things. What matters is that you see the chance to create something better at least as strongly as you see your loss.

Maybe you just got out of a long term relationship. And maybe ending the relationship was not your idea. But the choice to thrive and create a new life after the breakup is entirely in your hands. You have the option of centering your attention and emotion on what someone else’s actions took from you. But just as surely, you can see this ending as a chance to free yourself for new experiences.

In both cases, the facts can seem bleak. Former jobs and relationships are gone. Life has changed in radical ways. But we still have the power to assign the meaning to the facts through our choices and actions.

Crises may come, but they will go. And like physical birth, spiritual, professional or relationship rebirths may be very painful experiences. But they can lead to beautiful things if you are open to losing the loss and embracing the opportunity!

Life and renewal are as certain as death and destruction. Faith and hope are as sure as despair. Whether to serve hope or despair is the most basic choice in human life. Choose wisely!

Dr. Janice Staab is a philosophical counselor and life coach. For more information on her services or to schedule your free consultation, e-mail info@lifesignscoaching.com. You can also check out her Web site at www.lifesignscoaching.com.

 

If Weight Loss is Your Goal, Don’t Say These 3 Words!

Whether for weddings or holidays, improved health or simple vanity, most of us have tried to lose weight at one point or another in our lives. And with spring springing early this year, bathing suits and vacations will have many more of us thinking those shrinking thoughts once again.

Before you start counting calories and scheduling Pilates classes, pay some attention to the language you use to describe your fitness goals. Language is powerful and can make or break your plan. I suggest that all my fitness coaching clients avoid these three words completely.

1. Weight:     It may seem odd, but the first word to avoid is the word weight itself. The only practical  meaning that this word has is “the amount of force it takes for gravity to hold you on the planet.” That’s it, folks. Yet we put so much stock in this word. The success or failure of our fitness plan depends on moving that number on the scale in the right direction. Don’t obsess on an essentially meaningless number. Focus on some more practical success indicators. Are your clothes fitting better? Do you have more energy? Is your body taking on a shape that you like? While you’re at it, just toss the scale in the trash!

2. Diet:      Diets are those restrictive, temporary ways of eating that rarely work long term. Eating plans are long term healthy ways of providing your body with the nutrition it needs to heal and grow. Which would you rather follow?  🙂

3. Tone:  Having muscle tone is not a bad thing. However, many women associate the strength training with the bulky He-Man figures you see in bodybuilding magazines. Tone is a word many of my clients have used to mean “timid, easy strength training that will put me in no danger of building actual muscle.”

I promise you that, short of you having a severe hormonal imbalance or working out like an Olympic athlete, you will simply not “bulk up.” The female body is designed to preserve a higher percentage of fat than the male body. Further, it takes more calories to support a pound of muscle than a pound of fat. So your body will burn more calories even at rest if you have a greater percentage of lean muscle tissue. Muscle is your friend in fitness!

Dr. Janice Staab is a life coach and philosophical counselor who helps clients navigate change and transition in life. Learn more about her practice at www.lifesignscoaching.com.

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